Wish to be You
Image by Mohamed Hassan from Pixabay
Have you ever felt like you wanted to be someone else? I think everyone has at some point. I know I have.
When we daydream about being someone else, we rarely want to be a nobody. We fantasize about being esteemed. Someone revered and respected. Someone with celebrity. Or someone extremely intelligent, highly talented, revolutionary, or up for sainthood. I mean, if you’re going to dream, you might as well dream big. Why not go for the whole enchilada?
Fantasizing can be fun, but that fantasy can also be a double-edged sword, because when you dream about being someone else—someone you see as more desirable—within that dream is a subconscious message that the person you are isn’t good enough. On some level, you simply don’t cut it.
Wouldn’t it be better to dream about being you?
Set your sights on the person you want to become. The future you. Unless you go into witness protection, you’re not likely to become anyone else, so why waste your energy on something unattainable? Each day we have the opportunity to embrace the world and change our lives, but at this time of year— the beginning of a new year—that opportunity takes on greater significance because we see New Year’s Day as a catalyst for change. Out with the old and in with the new. We tend to usher in the new year with a plethora of resolutions—I want to be thinner. I want to eat healthier. I want to be in better shape. I want a new job. I want a promotion. I want to go back to school and earn a college degree or certification. I want my life to have meaning. I want to make a difference. I want to have a purpose. I want to feel loved.
In the end, it's all about feeling more worthy
But we are worthy. We arrive on this earth with a purpose. Our job is to figure out what it is and help manifest it. And the journey, with all of its ups and downs, is part of it. If your life stood for only one thing, what would you want it to be? What do you want people to say about you when you’re gone? Focus on that because the rest doesn’t matter.
If you’ve set goals in the past and didn’t accomplish them, ask yourself if it was something you wanted to do or something you thought you were supposed to do, but your heart wasn’t in it. A goal not accomplished leaves a residual feeling of failure, and nothing depletes self-worth more than failure, so don’t set yourself up for it.
A New Year’s resolution should be one deeply meaningful thing
Choose one and be mindful of it every day. If it feels too big, remember that you can accomplish it in steps, and each step in that journey is a milestone. If it means that much to you, you’ll get there. Be patient. Change takes time. And be kind to yourself during the process because life has a way of getting in the way, but it doesn’t have to derail you.
We all aspire to be the best version of ourselves, so wish to be you. And if you do the work to manifest it, maybe someday, someone out there will aspire to be more like you, and use that aspiration to become the best version of themselves.
Until next time,
Jean
AKA The Strategic Chicken – Making life’s journey one strategic step at a time.
